To nanny or not to nanny

Mother & son

To nanny or not to nanny, that is the question. Because I am a sahm I felt it was being cheeky & lazy having a nanny for 1 child. Yes we had an au pair for Tristan from 3 months but it was part time and more to help stimulate him. We also had a cleaner twice a week and for me that was enough.

2 kids

Bring on 2 kids and my mind has been swinging back and forth a lot. Our domestic started working for us full time when Grayson was just a couple of weeks old. I was initially reluctant to allow her to look after Grayson, he was so small and needed me 100% as he’s exclusively breastfed. Tristan however took it upon himself to claim her as his playmate. I’d often find the 2 of them playing happily in his room. I didn’t mind this at all as long as the house work was done by the end of the day.

Grayson reached 3 months

As Grayson reached 3 months I started to allow our nanny to look after him for short stretches, like if I wanted to shower or have breakfast. With Tristan at school until around 3pm most days she had time to to get everything done before T got home and then still take him to the park before 5pm.

Today, as I sit here typing this post, Tristan has been on school holidays for 2 weeks. It’s been full on! Grayson is 4 months tomorrow and is going through a leap AND the start of the 4 month sleep regression. I feel exhausted to my bones. So, for the first time I have sent both boys to the park with our nanny. I just needed some time without them here. Even if Tristan is out, I’m always with Grayson or listening for him to wake up. It’s relentless.

Nanny, yes or no

To nanny or not to nannyI will still take Grayson with me wherever I go but it’s really nice to know that should I need to leave him at home for an hour or 2 our nanny is 100% capable & confident to look after him. She’s had practise putting him to sleep while I’ve been at home, played with him while I’ve showered. She’s done first aid & a nanny course, she has 2 boys of her own.

So no, we don’t have a full time nanny. No, we don’t have a full time domestic. What we do have is a wonderful woman who can do both with confidence. It feels like she’s part of the family.

It’s a very personal choice whether to have a nanny or not. As mentioned in the beginning of this post, I never wanted a nanny. I’m the mom and I want to raise my children. But with the relentlessness of having 2 kids (don’t get me wrong, I love having 2 kids) you need an extra set of hands and, if you can afford it, why not?

Competency

I needed to know she was competent with kids. She came from someone who had kids and she was a full time nanny prior to that. But I needed to see for myself. I used to watch her interact with Tristan, see how he responded to her, treated her. I needed to see her interact with Grayson, how she held him, stimulated him, put him to sleep, bottle fed him. I’m a control freak and I’m particularly fussy when it comes to my kids.

All I can say, is having someone you trust to help out when you need a break, is something that I have warmed to and I really appreciate her offering to help out when she can see I’m taking strain.

Do you have a nanny? Is it something you are considering? Pop me a message if you’d like to ask any questions.

Much love xxx

NOTE: THIS POST WAS WRITTEN SOME TIME BEFORE POSTING

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